Romantic Holiday Decorating

With the holidays upon us.....I'm sure we're getting our homes in festive order, & scouring the stores for the best deals on gifts ect. But why not extend the holiday cheer into the bedroom?

It's not hard to brighten up a bedroom for the holidays. The obvious thing to do is to use the bed as the focal point of the room. Buy a string of colored or clear lights & string them around the head board, windows, cieling or wall for some romantic mood lighting. Don't forget the mistletoe...make sure it's right above your bed and/or in the doorway leading to the bedroom! ;) You can even hang a cheerful wreath above the bed.

If you don't have much to decorate w/ then declutter! That makes even the tiniest of rooms look fresh & inviting. Clutter can be feel smothering. Set up a cluster of candles of various heights on a dresser, preferably in Christmas colors.

Don't forget to decorate yourself! Why not invest in a tiny, sexy, faux santa suit! Something satiny & red, trimmed in white fur? You can even go basic & more practical but still fun & sexy by purchasing a matching bra & panty set in red & if you wanted you can trim it yourself, in some white fun fur! lol For the totally FUN but frugal minded.....present yourself, one night, in nothing but a bright red bow! Strategically placed perhaps?

When creating your Christmas Card list...don't forget to create one specially for H. Add a little love note or a 'reservation': "Meet me in the bedroom @ 8pm for a little hot & heavy Christmas Gift UNwrapping!"

For some extra special 'intimate' gifts....you can always check out my website for sexy gift giving.

Happy Romantic Holidays & a Very Sexy & Merry Christmas to you! ;o)

Another use for: Stow & Go Seating

Apparently the salesmen don't tell you THIS when you purchase a Honda Odyssey Mini-van...I bet they'd sell MORE mini-vans IF they did.......

H & I were walking out of a movie today, to our car in the parking lot. As we walked past a nice, silver odyssey mini-van, we noticed it was ON. Noone was in the driver or passenger seat. I thought: could someone actually have accidentally left their car running?

How odd.

H was like: what the heck?

Until.......he noticed a bobbing head & a pair of feminine feet up in the air, in the back! Thank goodness they had tinted windows because I had just walked right past the car. (another good reason to have those, too)

See.... the middle seats had been removed (apparently) & the back seats were 'stowed'. {they can fold flat in the Odyssey}
I didn't believe him @ first but when he pointed out the motion of the van, I knew it must be true. H thought it was a bit 'indiscreet'.

I was happy that some parents (obviously, they were in a mini-van!) were making time for themselves. Good for them.

Uh...next time though, you might want to choose a less populated parking lot. I don't know, just a thought. ;o)

BE Flirtatious

Flirting is NOT just for giggling teenage girls. Flirting is FUN & can help relax or invigorate the 'mood'. Have you forgotten HOW to flirt?

One afternoon @ the mall (or any teen hangout) should be all you need to remember. I bet your DH would LOVE you to flirt w/ him. Why not? It's mostly body language...what has your 'body language' said lately? Does it say, I want you, you're cute, or get near me & DIE! lololol

Here are a few reminders in case you have forgotten how.......

giggle @ his jokes (or anything he says. lol)
touch his arm while your talking
play w/ a strand of hair while your talking
laugh AND touch his arm for a second
put your head down while looking up & batting your eyelashes
race him to get the mail
wrestle w/ him over the remote
attempt to feed him his next bite of dessert but miss his mouth
clean his face w/ a kiss
kiss him unexpectedly @ a red light next time your driving
tickle him

Since you ARE married you have free reign to take your flirting ALL the way & 'follow through'. :o)

The Upside of Anger

I saw this movie a few weeks ago. The main character is a 40's something wife who believes her H has left her to run off w/ his Swedish secretary. She also has 4 daughters in various ages, highschool to college.

One particular scene in the movie has stayed w/ me all these weeks. A minor character gets involved w/ the heroine's dd who is much younger than him. This character is portrayed as a bit of a sleezy guy who goes for girls much younger than himself. The heroine, dealing w/ the rejection by her own H, thinks he's disgusting & finally lets him know it.

She asks him WHY can't he date women his own age?

His response was quite insightful. Don't quote me on it....but his answer was: young girls are NICE! The older ladies, ladies his age, are mean, bitter women. Much like the heroine was becoming. I have seen this IRL.

Young beautiful women are everywhere. There will always be someone younger & prettier than you. What happened?

When we are dating our future spouse, we put on all sorts of 'airs' & charms. We get dressed up to go out. We pick out our underthings w/ care & concern. We wear our best clothes, pretty earrings, do our hair. Down to the polish we have on our toes. WE look HOT. Then we also put on our best behavior.

We laugh @ his jokes. We charm him. We hold his hand & lean in close when he's talking. We gaze into his eyes. We pay attention. We come home & count the minutes when he should be arriving home so we can call him & talk some more. We just want to hear his voice. No matter what he's saying. We are more than nice.

Hook. Line. & sinker.

Years go by, kids are born. Whatever. Where is that young vivacious girl now? Is she bogged down by worry & discontent? Is she angry because the garbage wasn't taken out today? Is she upset that the towel is on the bathroom floor?

Are we making it easy for our men to have their heads turned towards those nice young girls? Or are we welcoming them home? Have we become bitter wives? Contentious partners? Sourfaces? Do we nag every chance we get? OR save our niceties for 'pay day'?

Remember that young girl you were? How much you loved even a few moments w/ your man? You cherished those moments & gave him all your attention. You loved to hear about his day whether you understood it or not.

Are we turning our men away w/ our frowns? W/ our worry?

She's still there...sure there may have been some surprises along the path, maybe you lost your way for awhile. I'm sure he may have too. You can re-start today. SMILE.

It is the quickest & easiest way to improve your value.

Remember every time you push him away, give him a frown or complaint, there are plenty of other women out there just waiting to lavish him w/ attention, compliments & smiles.

SMILE! ;o)

How do you look?

Recently, a friend asked me what my H likes to see me in, dresses, pants or what? My response was: "Naked"

We chuckeld over that but it's true. H does not care too much what I wear daily but he LOVES to see my body in the nude. I suspect most H love to see their W nude as well.

H does make a point of complimenting me when I am dressed especially nice. It's so important for us to remember our H visual needs. Most men are visually stimulated. There are plenty of tempting opportunites in daily life & the best way to avoid the temptations is to be full & satiated by our lover BEFORE we/they are tempted.

I think it is important for W to present themselves as attractively as possible when greeting their H home from work or time away. I'm not advocating a return to June Cleaver's heels & pearls (although that might be fun) for everyday attire, but a fresh face, clean clothes & a smile @ least.

Who doesn't enjoy being greeted w/ a smile? followed by a hug, a kiss and......who knows where the evening will go from there...... :o)

It's also important to remember to feed the desires of OUR H, not just most men. Find out what YOUR H likes to see you in (or out of) & try to fufill that desire on a regular basis.

Song of Solomon 4:1a
Behold, thou art fair, my love;behold, thou art fair.....

A few things I've learned.....

...IF your gonna do a seductive dance for your H, while standing on the bed, make sure the cieling fan is OFF!

...if/when you do that seductive dance ON the bed, it really should be on something more solid because a ceiling fan isn't that stable to grab onto when you are about to fall off.

...hot/warming massage oil should never be confused as a personal lubricant, it burns!

...if you use bengay for achy muscles, make extra sure you wash your hands before coming in contact w/ 'intimate' parts.

...you cannot see cellulite in candlelight.

...the one time you don't lock your door, someone will forget to knock before entering!

...if it slips out to the kidbits that you want a clear shower curtain so you can see daddy naked, they WILL repeat it.

And this has nothing to do w/ the bedroom but for continuity sake: the ONE time you are organized enough to have everyone in coordinating outifts & make the appointment in time to get your portraits done in time for Christmas, the photographer will die & you won't be able to get them back until next year anyway!

The GOOD Girlz Guide to being Naughty!

Stripping or the art of the strip-tease is NOT just for exotic dancers & porn stars!!! Ladies...it's time to throw all your pre-concieved notions of the good girl/bad girl mentality OUT the window! GOD designed sex within marriage to be satisfying, healthy & PLEASURABLE!

SO let's' focus on ONE way to gain & give MORE pleasure in the bedroom w/ the STRIP TEASE! I think you can plan it out...or even just try to remember a few really good moves that would work. Don't pressure yourselves ladies that you need to have this full choreographed sequence of events.... Even just swaying the hips to the music for a bit works! LOL

Also a few really good moves for those who are self-conscious of their bodies, accentuating your best @$$ets!...remember: 'use what you have decorating'!!!

Here are a few suggestions for 'moves'...

Scissor legs: work your way to the floor but facing H & lean back (or even sitting up, like a stretch) spread your legs open & closed a few times, then crossed them & roll over. Makes legs look longer & leaner.

**EVEN excercise moves would work. I don't know how many times I have been doing basic leg lifts & H comments on what a turn on it is! LOL

Bend over: this ALWAYS works. Facing away so H has a backside view. Just bend over, pretty simple, sway a bit or move your back side in cingular motions....H dies for THIS! Makes the rear look nice & round, the bigger the better....

Cat moves: crawling on all fours, sultry like, forward OR away from H, across the floor, couch or bed. Again, avoids 'problem areas', using gravity to your benefit & focusing on rear, extends body when you are stretching out gracefully as you move.

Hands up: Hold hands up in the air but clasped together above head & sway hips to the music. Elongates the body & gives a nice view, really sexy if your hair falls seductively over body parts. (if your hair's short, you can use this move anyway)

Hands across front: can be used same as hands up but you support your breasts to create sexy poses, also good time to use hair again. Don't neglect the use of your hair, coy head tosses are highly encouraged.

Props: feather, scarf, discarded lingerie..... Properly used props can help you slowly move to being completely nude. Use the prop to carress your body where you KNOW he wishes his hands were.

Don't neglect natural spaces/props like the floor or wall. You can lean & dance up against a wall, it creates a silouhette type of scene, try sliding up & down against it. Spreading your legs & arms wide against it. Even a door-way (bathroom, closet or bedroom door) or screen can be a nice teaser, you can be behind part of it, extending a silk stocking'd or bare leg, working your way out.

Same thing w/ the floor: rolling around slowly, always 'get up' rear first, (keeping both hands & feet on the floor while your rear goes up) it will be easier & more seductive anyway, especially if you are in heels.

Take your time.
Candles are ALWAYS good. (they hide a flaws & dirty laundry on the floor! )

** For the extra shy...a sheer screen w/ a light behind it (your side) would be a great 'show' for your dh. Place the BRIGHT light/lamp on the same side as you & it will create a silouhette for your H to see on his side...old fashioned type of show & will help you work up to being completely, face-to-face nude in front of him.

You can manuever this quite frugally: either sheer fabric tacked across the ceiling to hang down, or a created w/ a dividing screen you can find @ home stores...or a super crafty lady could create one w/ some wood or plastic piping. (I once saw a puppet thingy done like this using the plastic piping)

OKAY ladies...you generous wives you...get creative!!!!
And have FUN!

'Use What You HAVE Decorating!' Part 1

Coming from a woman who used to be VERY voluptuous (yay!) w/ a BIG butt (boo!) who is now thin (yay?) w/ a practically flat boy chest (boo!)....

Okay, Let me tell you what I have learned: {from (what I like to call) my own personal use-what-you-have-decorating philosophy}

Cellulite can NOT be seen in candle light. {I promote candles as the biggest flaw/fat/dirty-laundry/hider ever invented}

Voluptuous, well endowed women usually ALWAYS look better NAKED than w/ clothes on, especially lying on the bed. {so light a candle & strike a pose}

I've NEVER, EVER heard about a MAN complain about his W NAKED body. Nor complain that she gets TOO naked or naked TOO much!

If your breasts are small or not quite a perky as they used to be---buy smaller lingerie tops (ie: tight) it will hold everything in & up better. Halter style lingerie & tops are especially flattering for smaller busts.

If you are larger up top, use underwire for some great cleavage.
Use your arms to squeeze the breasts together (arms down in front, like w/ hands clasped) for sexy posing opportunities.

Boy shorts are great for ANY booty, the bigger the better because then your cheeks hang out (which I think is the point), if your problem is that yours is too flat, get a thong to create the idea of more curves. Bend over alot in the bedroom, makes it look even rounder rather than mishapen (as many of us women (wrongly) believe our bodies are)

No waist? Use separate pieces of lingerie (bra & panties) to break up the line OR maybe even a corset to create an hourglass shape. Something w/ a built in bra, sheer middle that slits open down the front. (perfect for that pregnant figure)

Learn what your H likes & enjoys in the bedroom. When you are confident in your lovemaking skills & realize all the potential pleasure your body is capable of creating w/ & for your H-------woohoo! You will really start to feel good about yourself.

Creat something just for the 2 of you---become great @ oral, or strip teasing or riding him or erotic massage----whatever. Try to focus on ONE aspect & become GREAT @ it!

PRETEND you are a MODEL. This really works. It really helps you to feel confidently sexy!
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Our body was NOT created just for us to stare @ & pick apart inch by inch. It was created to birth babies, nurse babies, pleasure Husbands, nurture family & friends ect. Just because your 10lbs overweight or 50 lbs overweight or 10 lbs underweight, does NOT mean that you can not give & receive sexual pleasure as God intended.

GET CREATIVE!
'Use-what-you-have-decorating!'